The idea is to put sex on the rotation

Getting Over the Hump of Talking About Sex

At the beginning of most sexual relationships the sex part is so new and exciting, that not much talk is required. This seems reasonable, but it isn’t really sustainable. If you find yourself in a long term committed relationship, eventually something is going to happen sexually that you aren’t happy with. Maybe it’s not enough sex, or too much of one kind of sex, or you just want the sexual relationship to go in a different direction. All these things require you to start talking with your partner.

Because we don’t always talk about sex openly with our partners, thoughts and feelings can build up and knowing where to start, or what to say, can feel like too much. If the relationship is loving, and you feel mostly satisfied, you may decide just to ignore the sex part.

This sex tip offers a way to begin opening up about your sexual feelings, thoughts, dreams, etc…

Pick one week where you and your partner commit to doing two things:
Don’t have sex that week. Intimacy is okay, touching, hugging, kissing, but whatever kind of sex you regularly have, take a week off.
Everyday have a five minute conversation about sex. It doesn’t have to be heavy, or deeply confessional, it doesn’t even have to be about you, but you commit to talking about sex for five minutes in private every day.

The idea is to put sex on the rotation in your regular conversations. We’re so used to talking about every other aspect of our relationships except the sex, and that, in part, is what makes talking about sex so difficult. If it becomes a daily topic of conversation eventually everyone has a better chance of speaking and being heard.

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Do you want better sex

Figuring Out What Better Sex Means to You, And How to Have It

Depending on where you are in your life, your sexual goals may be more about finding someone to have sex with, than how to have better sex. But those who have a regular sexual partner (or more than one) often eventually turn to the question of how to have better sex. You can tell that this is a common question in part by the dizzying array of books, videos, and workshops that promise to give you better sex .

The problem with most promises of better sex is that they ignore a fundamental aspect of sexual experience; that it's both individual and subjective. Better sex for your neighbor may be nothing like better sex for you. In fact, the person you're having sex with may think better sex is something very different from what you imagine better sex to be. So before you buy another book, watch another video, or take another class, you need to start with what might seem like a not very sexy question: What does better sex mean to you?

It's a big question, so here are a few specifics to think about:
Does better sex mean doing sexual things that you aren't doing now? Things you have never done?
Is it the sex that you want to change, or yourself? Your own feelings or orientation toward sex?
Does better sex mean more sex? Is frequency alone a factor?
Does it mean more partners? A different partner?
Do you want better sex because you want to make a good thing better, a bad thing good, both?
Why do you want better sex in the first place?

These are questions worth asking even if you think there's nothing you can do about it. If you're in a monogamous relationship you might think there's no point in wondering about other partners. But there's a big difference between thought and action, and for your own sexual (and mental) health, consider giving yourself permission to at least think about all your options.

If you are in a relationship it's unlikely you can make any changes to your sex life without talking to your partner and getting them on board. To do that you need to make sure you both want a change, and your both willing to explore different kinds of change.

Of course the most enduring sexual relationship any of us have is with ourselves, and you can explore and experiment with different kinds of sex on your own anytime. If better sex for you is really about a change in attitude or focus, this is something you can do on your own, consciously changing the way you masturbate but also what you're thinking about while you masturbate. Better sex has to start with you, both metaphorically and literally.

I don't believe there's any packaged way to guarantee better sex. The best you can do is get other people's ideas of sex, think about them for yourself, and experiment. To that end, here are a few resources on About.com that may be helpful in getting you thinking about and exploring better sex.

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Leave a love letter under your spouse’s pillow

Guide to Wedding Night Sex

Whether you have never had sex or have had it with each other a million times before you get married, you’ll want wedding night sex to sizzle. A little bit of planning and a whole lot of love will do the trick. Your goal should be to woo each other with romantic gestures, genuine sentiment, and hot passion. This guide to your first time having sex as married people should help – ?

Romance each other.

Sex is nothing without romance, especially on a day as romantic as your wedding. You must do whatever it takes to infuse the night with romance (even if you start to feel as exhausted from a full day of celebrating). The wedding night, after all, is just for the two of you.

Express your love.

Find the perfect way to demonstrate how happy you are to have married your spouse. Hugs, kisses, or whispering sweet nothings might work. The key to finding the perfect expression of love, however, is knowing your lover. What actions send the message to him or her that you are in love?

Leave a love letter under your spouse’s pillow.

A handwritten note, especially in the age of e-mail and text messages, is heartfelt and meaningful. If you never write your spouse a love letter, you should do so on your wedding. Leaving such a note under your spouse’s pillow ahead of your passionate night together is thoughtful and perfectly timed.

Set the mood.

Preparation can make all the difference when it comes to wedding night sex. After the ceremony and festivities, you might be exhausted. But you can make sure there will be champagne on ice, rose petals on the floor and a few candles. Either take care of it yourself the morning of the wedding or ask someone you trust to do it for you. Make sure you pack your fancy underwear and lingerie for the wedding night, too. If you forget that, however, nudity always works well.

Prepare your body for sexual pleasure.

If it is your first time having sex (or the first time for your spouse), you should prepare your body for sex. Women can feel pain the first times they have sex, but there are things you can do to minimize the pain – from going slow and being patient to using lubricant. Get the details on what can be done long before the wedding night itself. Spend lots of time on foreplay to make sure everyone is hot and ready to go.

Set the standard for sex.

Think of your wedding night as the first night of the rest of your sex life. From the start of your sexual relationship, you should be open and comfortable with one another. You should also take responsibility for your own sexual pleasure. In other words, make a plan on how you are going to continue to pleasure one another and keep things exciting.

Always strive for improvement.

Sex, like most things in life, can always get better. Living out reasonable fantasies, using sex toys, or simply talking might make your sex life go from boring to spicy. The hard part is determining what the two of you need and how to merge those needs.

Keep the passion alive.

Married sex runs the risk of getting boring. For couples who have had lots of sex ahead of the wedding night, this can happen from the very first night. But you can do something about a lack of passion. Court one another – and put the zing back in your sex life.

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How to Make Your Wedding Night Unforgettable

Sex Tips for Virgins on Their Wedding Night

If you'll be a virgin when you get married, you're probably feeling some apprehension about what will happen on your wedding night. Here are tips and advice to help things go smoothly.

How to Communicate Before the Wedding Night

Pick a quiet moment to ask your soon-to-be-spouse "are you feeling nervous at all about our wedding night?" Odds are, he or she will be relieved to have the opportunity to talk about it. Talk about what your hopes and fears are. If your partner has sexual experience or you want to prevent pregnancy, talking about safer sex is essential. You may want to visit a counselor, or talk about sex during your pre-wedding counseling. If you are too nervous to bring up the subject of sex, consider leaving a magazine open, or even forwarding this article in an email.

How to Communicate During Sex

The most important sex tip for being a great lover is to learn how to communicate in bed. For nervous first timers, it might seem more natural to stay silent; dirty talk can be intimidating. Try saying, "That feels good" or just moaning a little when you like something. Be observant of your partner as well - if they're quiet and still, you might want to try something different. You can ask, "Does that feel good?" or "Can I try..." Most importantly, speak up when something doesn't feel good. Sex can and should give both of you pleasure.

Will She Bleed? Will it Be Painful?

When a woman loses her virginity, it is possible for it to be a little bloody or painful. However, it shouldn't last for too long, and it is almost never very serious. To make things easier, make sure there's plenty of foreplay before you try penetration. You'll also want to have a good lubricant. I recommend a brand called "Slippery Stuff" because it is safe to use with latex, and it's glycerin-free. (Glycerin can cause yeast infections.) Even if you use a lubricated condom, you'll want to use extra lube. And, if you're afraid of bleeding on the hotel sheets, bring a towel with you, or your own sheets.

Will He Be Able to Maintain an Erection? What Happens If He Can't?

The pressure of the wedding night can be too much for many men. If things aren't "working," try to change up the mood. Spend some time kissing, and fondling each other. Perhaps make a game out of how many different body parts you can kiss, or be a little more serious by talking about the wedding, your love for each other, and milestones ahead of you. Most importantly remember that sex isn't just about penetration. There are lots of ways to make each other feel good that don't require an erection.

Will I Be Any Good? How Can I Wow My New Husband or Wife?

Sex, like most things, takes practice. You are likely to be a little clumsy and to feel a little goofy. Take things slowly, and try to listen to your partner. Find out what feels good, and what doesn't. Don't be afraid to ask! But don't concentrate on how mind-blowing (or not!) the physical feelings are. Instead try to be gentle with one another, and focus on how amazing it is to finally be in each other's arms as a married couple.

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Top Ten Sex Tips for Men

At any given second, 4,000 people are having sex in the world. So ‘knocking’ is the most happening or ‘rocking’ thing in the world. Sex is not all about doing it in the bed. The three attributes that can help you in building an effective relationship with women include - your caring nature, communication skills and your confident attitude. ‘Lusty talk’ during sex can help to stimulate women even more. Tease her and make her feel desirable and you are sure to give her orgasm even if your performance is below par.

1. If you sweat during sex don’t worry – sweating men ooze testosterone and it is a biological turn on for women.

2. During sex keep the room warm rather than cold. So maybe turn off the air-conditioner if necessary or turn it on low. Heat causes dilatation of blood vessels and more swelling of the penis and vagina and flushing of the skin. Heat makes you ‘flush during sex.’

3. If you want your girl to become pregnant make sure you give her a big orgasm. The chances of pregnancy increases because contraction of pelvic muscles during orgasm help the sperms move up the vaginal canal and fertilize the eggs.

4. If your girl has a headache and you have no pills available give her a big orgasm and this can relieve her headache. Sex is known to cure headaches due to release of morphine like pain killer substances in the brain called endorphins.

5. Big orgasm also requires you to indulge in some foreplay. Gently touching, stroking, sucking and licking your partners nipples, thighs, vagina and clitoris are sometimes enough to start the orgasm. Keep the big act for the end.

6. Stimulate her clitoris with your fingers by gently fondling with the area. Remember the sensory nerve fibers have the highest concentration around the clitoris followed by labia, and the outer third of the vagina.

7. Find her G-Spot – G-spot stimulation can give a woman a big orgasm. It is usually located in the front section of the vaginal wall between her vaginal opening and the cervix. Use finger to stroke the front portion of the vagina and during intercourse the best way to stimulate her G-spot is insertion of the penis from the back. If the G-spot and clitoris are simulated simultaneously the women is likely to have ‘one hell of a orgasm’ that she is unlikely to forget.

8. Early morning sex is also a great option if you are tired in the night. You can get extra help from the surge of Testosterone in the morning. Blood levels of testosterone are highest just before dawn and are 40% higher than in the evening.

9. Keep you ‘But’ in shape - Buttocks of a man are the most admired part of a man’s body by women.

10. Age is not a factor for sex as much as it is for women. Studies show that even if you are over 70 years the chances of your being potent is over 73%. Actor Anthony Quinn fathered a baby at the age of 81 years.

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Women can be more intense and may be preferred

Tips : Oral Sex Positions

A good oral sex position can make the difference between a hot and fun oral romp and an awkward ten minutes that leaves you with a pain in the neck. While it’s true that most of us are just excited to be receiving oral sex and may not care so much about the position, for oral sex lovers (both the giving and receiving kind) changing up the position can also change the experience. Positions may give either or both partners more access to touching body parts and certain positions easily highlight the power dynamic potential of oral sex.

Tip #1 – On Your Knees:

This classic position (well classic in porn anyway) can evoke the power dynamics in oral sex well. Despite being usually represented as a position for fellatio, a woman can also receive oral sex while standing with a partner kneeling in front of them. Benefits of this position are the visuals, the fact that the giving partner may be able to use their hands, as well as being a position that doesn’t require a lot of room and can be gotten into and out of relatively quickly. The drawback is that it’s hard on the knees (a pillow under them helps a bit) and it can be hard on the neck as well.

Tip #2 – Between the Legs:

A much more comfortable position oral sex, this common position has the receiving partner lying on their back with the giver further down between their legs. There are a lot of variations on this position where the receiving partner bends their knees or lifts their legs right up off the bed (they can rest on the givers shoulders). The receiving partner can also turn on their side, and this may be even more comfortable for a giving partner who has neck problems.

Tip #3 – Right Angle Approach:

In this position the receiving partner lies flat on their back and the giving partner positions themselves at a right angle with head at their partners genitals. Giving oral sex at this position changes the usual direction of stroking/licking from up-and-down to side-to-side. Side-to-side stimulation, particularly for women can be more intense and may be preferred. This position also allows the giver greater hand reach if they want to stimulate the legs and feet or head of their partner.

Tip #4 – Face Sitting:

If you’re prone to giggling this may not be the oral sex position for you as it may remind you of a childhood game in a non-sexy way. Otherwise this position can work well, particularly with a woman on top. It’s great if the giver has any mobility restrictions or fatigues easily, and it also provides a lot of dominance/submission potential. The receiver can sit over the givers face either crouching or with their shins on the bed, and can even lean forward and support their own upper body with their hands (so they’re kind of in a rear entry position).

Tip #5 – On the Edge of Your Seat:

A more relaxed version of the on your knees position, in this one the receiver sits in a comfy chair with their bum out towards the edge (this also works on the edge of a bed or couch of course). This position is much easier for the giver who can be on their knees or sitting but can shift some of the weight of their own body from their knees to their upper body by using the chair for some support. One drawback to this position is that it doesn’t offer the same kind of access to the receiver’s full body.

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